Can you turn your sadness into anger and your anger into a drive to overcome this? I mean it's your life to do whatever you want in so why should someone else be able to dictate this? I can't say my circumstances have been exactly the same as yours but I have learned very much that I can channel my sadness into anger and blame. And then from the more…
Haha. You should pick a date and give it another shot, horribly difficult as it is. I managed to give them up as a new year's resolution. Although, I signed myself up for a Thaiboxing fight around that time so I had the added incentive of being in serious danger of being savagely beaten if I didn't get myself in shape! more…
Hi there, thanks for the comment, but i wrote that a year ago. the follow up news from that is that i did marry him, but after 5 weeks he left me for another woman! I guess i should have walked away when i first thought that. I know that i am so so so much better of now. more…
You need to seriously consider if you are going to marry this man.....this is your life....... and do you really want to spend it feeling shit about yourself??? and most importantly do you deserve that???? Noooooooo!!!
Firstly Why are people with aids worse off than people with cancer?
You say you hate this version of yourself, if that's the case then change the way you approach life, the way you interact with people and change your goals. Why don't you read ' how to win friends and influence people' by Dale Carnegie or some books on NLP, i'm sure you'd fi more…
Haven't seen you here for a long time. Hope it really does turn around for you soon - you're young and have your whole life ahead of you. Pull away from the restriction of your past and look for what is bright in the future!
I'd love to be just 27 again - get 3 more years back ;) more…
That's a question that would take so long to answer - something which you wont find on blog. But, I can offer you some hope! I take it you haven't had babies??
I think the best start is to tell yourself over and over that you aren't married to him (even though you actually are). Take the power away from him, and even if he realised more…
I agree that this fellow is a toe-rag and your solution is empowering, banana. But, is there no way to rescue this relationship? I just think there must have been something that made them get married in the first place that might be able to get back.
I think this fellow is holding all the power at the moment and she meekly isn't assert more…
You could always give him an ultimatum. Say that unless he changes his ways you will have to leave him. You could always threaten to sleep with other people and see how he likes it. more…
It sounds like getting married was a bad idea. You don't say if there are children belonging to your relationship - I just wonder as sometimes people get married after being together for a long time.
Were you together for a long time before you actually tied the knot?
I have been in a similar situation and know how humili more…
hmm your man sounds like one of those traditional patronising kinds. Did his mother spoil him? Seems like it... Anyway, why should you be the one to clean the house and cook the dinner?!! Wow, he especially shouldn't be shouting at you the day before your wedding, over something like cleaning the house! I don't think you are pathetic and ungrateful more…
do you mean to say that just from reading my blogs you believe that getting married is what i deep down want to do or that its not? Just out of interest? more…
Hi. Just been reading through all your blogs. People always know what they really want deep down. Sometimes when people say they don't know what they want it's because they do, but they don't want to admit it to themselves. I don't know you so I can't say if that's the case with you or not. I hope it's not the case though and you have a long and ha more…
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In response to: "Things i wish i could tell my soon to be ex husband..." 316 days old
by mrgrumpybugger [Member]
OMG.... I think you should tell him! Loved the comments - Sorry you went through with it (Wedding). It sounds like you’re much better off now. Phew!
Have a cracking new year.
NB: I'm off to walk to the kitchen and get 'myself' a beer. I must change those sheets by the way!
:¬)
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In response to: "Things i wish i could tell my soon to be ex husband..." 333 days old
by Peggy [Visitor]
Hope you are out of it soon! more…
In response to: "Its not getting better" 490 days old
by MagicalMysteryTour Pro
Can you turn your sadness into anger and your anger into a drive to overcome this? I mean it's your life to do whatever you want in so why should someone else be able to dictate this? I can't say my circumstances have been exactly the same as yours but I have learned very much that I can channel my sadness into anger and blame. And then from the more…
In response to: "I cant believe i have to give up smoking" 539 days old
by letterfromthailand [Member]
Haha. You should pick a date and give it another shot, horribly difficult as it is. I managed to give them up as a new year's resolution. Although, I signed myself up for a Thaiboxing fight around that time so I had the added incentive of being in serious danger of being savagely beaten if I didn't get myself in shape! more…
In response to: "I cant believe i have to give up smoking" 539 days old
by akwood [Member]
NO.... I am a weak willed person and still smoking, I lasted five days though. So its a start!!!! more…
In response to: "I cant believe i have to give up smoking" 539 days old
by letterfromthailand [Member]
hey, so what happened? Are you still off them?? more…
In response to: "my boyfriend the Knob." 539 days old
by annelie [Visitor]
Hi there, thanks for the comment, but i wrote that a year ago. the follow up news from that is that i did marry him, but after 5 weeks he left me for another woman! I guess i should have walked away when i first thought that. I know that i am so so so much better of now. more…
In response to: "my boyfriend the Knob." 539 days old
by Susie Smith [Visitor]
You need to seriously consider if you are going to marry this man.....this is your life....... and do you really want to spend it feeling shit about yourself??? and most importantly do you deserve that???? Noooooooo!!!
more…
In response to: "Sleep" 705 days old
by cooladd [Member]
Firstly Why are people with aids worse off than people with cancer?
You say you hate this version of yourself, if that's the case then change the way you approach life, the way you interact with people and change your goals. Why don't you read ' how to win friends and influence people' by Dale Carnegie or some books on NLP, i'm sure you'd fi more…
In response to: "doctors" 771 days old
by MagicalMysteryTour Pro
Haven't seen you here for a long time. Hope it really does turn around for you soon - you're young and have your whole life ahead of you. Pull away from the restriction of your past and look for what is bright in the future!
I'd love to be just 27 again - get 3 more years back ;) more…
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In response to: "my husband is a idiot" 864 days old
by MagicalMysteryTour Pro
Yes yes - sounds like a very good plan!! Ya know what, fuck it - screw him over, all he seems to care about is money and not your feelings!!
Screw as much money out of him as you can - remember half that house is yours at the very least! more…
In response to: "my husband is a idiot" 865 days old
by [Visitor]
Hey! I'm 27 and my husband's a w*nker but I am still with him. Just.
You need to go and fun and not worry about finding a "nice" man (is there any?) just yet!
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In response to: "" 869 days old
by MagicalMysteryTour Pro
p.s. it was rather difficult replacing all the "hers" with "him" lol.
I just basically told you what I had to do to get over my ex when she dumped me for an Australian lad! more…
In response to: "" 869 days old
by MagicalMysteryTour Pro
That's a question that would take so long to answer - something which you wont find on blog. But, I can offer you some hope! I take it you haven't had babies??
I think the best start is to tell yourself over and over that you aren't married to him (even though you actually are). Take the power away from him, and even if he realised more…
In response to: "NEED ADVICE" 894 days old
by absurdman [Member]
I agree that this fellow is a toe-rag and your solution is empowering, banana. But, is there no way to rescue this relationship? I just think there must have been something that made them get married in the first place that might be able to get back.
I think this fellow is holding all the power at the moment and she meekly isn't assert more…
In response to: "NEED ADVICE" 895 days old
by banana Pro
The problem with the ultimatum idea is it gives him the power in the relationship.
It is giving him a choice as to whether she stays with him or not.
He does not deserve that privilege.
It also leaves her with the job of watching and waiting and suspecting him and tormenting herself as to whether or not she ha more…
In response to: "NEED ADVICE" 895 days old
by absurdman [Member]
I agree with banana.
You could always give him an ultimatum. Say that unless he changes his ways you will have to leave him. You could always threaten to sleep with other people and see how he likes it. more…
In response to: "NEED ADVICE" 895 days old
by banana Pro
It sounds like getting married was a bad idea. You don't say if there are children belonging to your relationship - I just wonder as sometimes people get married after being together for a long time.
Were you together for a long time before you actually tied the knot?
I have been in a similar situation and know how humili more…
In response to: "" 896 days old
by davidjohn Pro
An amazing story. I wish you well with this problem and empathise davidj more…
In response to: "back home" 913 days old
by vicstravels [Member]
hmm your man sounds like one of those traditional patronising kinds. Did his mother spoil him? Seems like it... Anyway, why should you be the one to clean the house and cook the dinner?!! Wow, he especially shouldn't be shouting at you the day before your wedding, over something like cleaning the house! I don't think you are pathetic and ungrateful more…
In response to: "I Got Married" 931 days old
by nobbynomates [Member]
Congratulations, I hope you feel the same way after another 26 years and 11 months. more…
In response to: "i dont like to swear but i just want to scream Bollocks" 936 days old
by never_mind_the_english [Visitor]
No 1. You can't change somebody. They arethe only ones that can do that.
No2. Men are like dogs. they thrive on regular mealtimes, lots of praise and a tickle!!!
:D
Good luck! more…
In response to: "1 week to go" 941 days old
by akwood [Member]
do you mean to say that just from reading my blogs you believe that getting married is what i deep down want to do or that its not? Just out of interest? more…
In response to: "1 week to go" 941 days old
by TheJinxy [Member]
Hi. Just been reading through all your blogs. People always know what they really want deep down. Sometimes when people say they don't know what they want it's because they do, but they don't want to admit it to themselves. I don't know you so I can't say if that's the case with you or not. I hope it's not the case though and you have a long and ha more…
In response to: "OH IT MAN" 976 days old
by ChimesofFreedom [Member]
Careful there Annie - you don't know what you've got 'til its gone...as someone once, rather perspicatiously, sang.
You don't write anything about IT guy reciprocating, so maybe it is a last minute, pre-wedding, the door is closing kind of fantasy?
I hope that you and H2B have a long, happy and fulfilling marriage. Good lu more…
In response to: "i am bored" 982 days old
by Chyna_Doll [Member]
Sounds like you have a greta life and you should enjoy it while you can! more…
In response to: "The IT Man" 986 days old
by yogesh [Visitor]
Hi,
Well i just want to say you do what you think is right and whatever your heart say to do? more…